• Family,  Working Moms

    Parenting Books…Ugh…

    So many parenting books prescribe the “best” and sometimes “right” way to help your child sleep, eat, play, bond, socialize and behave. They often promise to solve an assortment of other issues you may be facing as a parent. How on earth does a parent choose the “right” book? Hmmm, is there a right book or method? And what did people do before there were parenting books? Right? I have spent countless hours and money on parenting books of all varieties. Books on attachment parenting, books on “crying it out,” books that suggest rigid schedules, books that suggest no schedules, positive discipline, 1-2-3 discipline, demand feeding, feeding at only specific…

  • Family,  Working Moms

    Ditch the Working Mom Guilt

    Jody and I working on blog planning and doing some pics at the local coffee shop while the littles ran around outside! It feels like I have always worked. I grew up in a home where my father insisted that I work, so at 14 years old I started my first job cleaning dental instruments after school for a local dentist where I made $2.00 an hour…. I kid you not… $2.00 an hour. Even with a full course load through university I worked. What I have come to understand about myself is that I like working. I like getting my paycheck, I like the feeling of accomplishment when I…

  • Wellness

    The Truth About Gossip

      Have you ever said something and then the second it left your lips thought “why the heck did I just say that”? I have. More than once. ? I am not talking about dumb questions or poorly thought out ideas, I am talking about gossip. Even typing the word causes a nagging feeling of shame.  I thought once I was out of high school the days of gossip would be over, but nope. Personally, I discovered that this nasty conversation habit resurfaced once I had kids. I have caught myself more than once talking with a parent about another parent. I am not proud of this and it always…

  • Wellness

    Friendship Breakup

    Friendship Breakup… this one hurts. It’s hard to talk about, it’s one of those raw things that as women we don’t talk about…at least not openly.  Friendship breakup is when 2 people are really good friends, best friends even and then for one reason or another the friendship ends.  Sometimes mutually but often it’s one-sided.  When we have friendships end that we value and that we have put a lot of time in to, it’s upsetting, emotional and can be heartbreaking. There are many reasons why friendships end. Over the next while I am going to write about a few reasons why but this post is about friendships we make…

  • Family

    Transform Your Marriage With This…

    Ever look at a couple and ask yourself ‘how are they so happy?’ All couples have issues (trust me), but some couples seem to have figured out how to navigate these issues and bring out (and see) the best in each other. After many years of working with couples, I can tell you that it is not just one thing that makes couples happy. If only it were that easy. Last week, we talked about the importance of accepting influence from your partner (you can check it out here), in this post I want to talk about the importance of creating shared meaning as a couple. If you have read anything by…

  • All,  Family,  Wellness

    Making Marriage Work: Why It’s Important to Accept Influence from Your Partner

    Me and my hubby on our wedding day In December (2018), my husband and I celebrated 15 years of marriage. We have made it through grad school, law school, infertility, premature twins, my sick and then dying mother, and many other struggles in between. Making a marriage work is… work. I would be lying if I told you it has all been bliss. It has not. In fact, a few months into our marriage we just about called it quits. Looking back now, I can see why we struggled to make our marriage work. We are both very strong willed and stubborn people which led to some ridiculous fights in…

  • All,  Working Moms

    Work-Life Balance… Sorta….

    It was after the birth of my first son that I realized that I needed to embark on some sort of work-life balance if I was going to keep my sanity as I attempted to be a working mom. I had quickly come to realize that, although being a working mom is invigorating and rewarding, being a working mom is also complicated and exhausting. And… not easy. However, all I saw was other working moms making it look so easy. They were either painting on a nice smile, hiding their exhausted over stressed true self, or I was not pulling off being a working mom very well. Others were looking…

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    5 Things You Need to Know About Losing a Parent

      I will never forget the day I got the call confirming my mom had cancer.    We had spent the weekend thinking that she might have bronchitis or worst-case scenario pneumonia. Instead, we found out she had stage four ovarian cancer. It was one of those calls where time stands still and everything fades to black. I had just dropped my daughters off at the local rec centre for summer camp when the call came. There I was standing outside in the beautiful summer heat on what should have been a perfect summer day and my world began to narrow and crumble.   The heartache and loneliness I felt…

  • All,  Wellness

    Do I Have A Drinking Problem?

    Ever noticed on Facebook or Instagram that whenever moms are hanging out together or venting about having a bad day there is often a reference to booze (usually wine)? Why is that? Okay, besides the obvious reason that wine is delicious. I remember when I first found out that I was pregnant with twins I reached out to another mom who had two-year-old twins and asked if she had any advice for me. She wrote back one sentence. “Buy a case of wine”. I wrote back “ha, ha, seriously though” she responded with 1 word: “seriously”.I laughed it off and then proceeded to take her advice. I would not say…

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    How I discovered I had skin cancer

    I consider myself a vain person. Being vain is not an easy thing to admit, but in this case being vain helped me discover that I had skin cancer.  Around two years ago, I noticed that I had the smallest red spot in the middle of my forehead that would not go away.  It looked like a very small pimple.  I went to a laser clinic and had them laser it off. The procedure only aggravated the sore and now I not only had a red spot in the middle of my forehead, but now it was a tiny open sore that would not heal. I finally went to my…