• Family

    Why we need to let our kids fail

    We can’t hear the news or browse the web without hearing about the US college admissions bribery scandal. People are outraged at the lengths that parents have gone to get their kids admitted into  prestigious colleges. Shocked at the audacity of their schemes. I too was outraged at the injustice of it all. But, the more I thought about it the more I realized that a lot of us as parents are doing similar things in different areas using a wide variety of resources to ensure “happiness”, “success” and “comfort” for our children.  I think we can use money, friendships, build friendships of convenience, coach our kid’s sports team, or…

  • Wellness

    When the eating disorder ends… does it ever really go away?

    It seems like a lifetime ago I battled with an eating disorder. I don’t talk about it much, not because I am embarrassed about it but because sometimes I forget that I even had it…. But then I see it…. It’s there hiding in other areas of my life. I think we all feel screwed up in some way but as we age we find ways to hide it better or, we put our “stuff” on other things.  I battled bulimia seriously from around the age of 13-16… fortunately for me, my parents caught it and I was admitted as an out-patient to the B.C Children’s Hospital out-patient program under…

  • Wellness

    Treating Endometriosis Naturally

    This week we are thrilled to have Dr. Shalini Hitkari as our guest writer! Dr. Hitkari is a Naturopathic Physician practicing in Victoria BC at the Vancouver Island NaturopathicClinic. Dr. Hitkari has a passion for Women’s health and how it evolves over a women’s lifetime. She strongly believes in women supporting women and currently in her eighth year of practice, has focused on supporting women through transitions in life. From menarche and pregnancies to menopause, Dr. Hitkari’s approach is patient-centered, creating for them a comprehensive, individualized treatment plan to help them achieve optimal health and live their happiest and healthiest lives. I was lucky enough to work alongside this amazing…

  • Family

    What I have learned from a decade of parenting

    Family time This week my twin girls will be celebrating their 10th birthday. What??! How the heck did that happen? My friend once told me that it would drive him wild when his older sister would tell him ‘the days are long but the years are short’ when he was in the weeds parenting. I can understand how a saying like that might make you want to roll your eyes when you are in the thick of it with little kids, but once they get older (say around 10ish?) this expression really does ring true. Don’t get me wrong, some days are still numbingly, painfully long, but I truly can’t believe…

  • Family,  Working Moms

    Parenting Books…Ugh…

    So many parenting books prescribe the “best” and sometimes “right” way to help your child sleep, eat, play, bond, socialize and behave. They often promise to solve an assortment of other issues you may be facing as a parent. How on earth does a parent choose the “right” book? Hmmm, is there a right book or method? And what did people do before there were parenting books? Right? I have spent countless hours and money on parenting books of all varieties. Books on attachment parenting, books on “crying it out,” books that suggest rigid schedules, books that suggest no schedules, positive discipline, 1-2-3 discipline, demand feeding, feeding at only specific…

  • Family,  Working Moms

    Ditch the Working Mom Guilt

    Jody and I working on blog planning and doing some pics at the local coffee shop while the littles ran around outside! It feels like I have always worked. I grew up in a home where my father insisted that I work, so at 14 years old I started my first job cleaning dental instruments after school for a local dentist where I made $2.00 an hour…. I kid you not… $2.00 an hour. Even with a full course load through university I worked. What I have come to understand about myself is that I like working. I like getting my paycheck, I like the feeling of accomplishment when I…

  • Wellness

    The Truth About Gossip

      Have you ever said something and then the second it left your lips thought “why the heck did I just say that”? I have. More than once. ? I am not talking about dumb questions or poorly thought out ideas, I am talking about gossip. Even typing the word causes a nagging feeling of shame.  I thought once I was out of high school the days of gossip would be over, but nope. Personally, I discovered that this nasty conversation habit resurfaced once I had kids. I have caught myself more than once talking with a parent about another parent. I am not proud of this and it always…

  • Wellness

    Friendship Breakup

    Friendship Breakup… this one hurts. It’s hard to talk about, it’s one of those raw things that as women we don’t talk about…at least not openly.  Friendship breakup is when 2 people are really good friends, best friends even and then for one reason or another the friendship ends.  Sometimes mutually but often it’s one-sided.  When we have friendships end that we value and that we have put a lot of time in to, it’s upsetting, emotional and can be heartbreaking. There are many reasons why friendships end. Over the next while I am going to write about a few reasons why but this post is about friendships we make…

  • Family

    Transform Your Marriage With This…

    Ever look at a couple and ask yourself ‘how are they so happy?’ All couples have issues (trust me), but some couples seem to have figured out how to navigate these issues and bring out (and see) the best in each other. After many years of working with couples, I can tell you that it is not just one thing that makes couples happy. If only it were that easy. Last week, we talked about the importance of accepting influence from your partner (you can check it out here), in this post I want to talk about the importance of creating shared meaning as a couple. If you have read anything by…

  • All,  Family,  Wellness

    Making Marriage Work: Why It’s Important to Accept Influence from Your Partner

    Me and my hubby on our wedding day In December (2018), my husband and I celebrated 15 years of marriage. We have made it through grad school, law school, infertility, premature twins, my sick and then dying mother, and many other struggles in between. Making a marriage work is… work. I would be lying if I told you it has all been bliss. It has not. In fact, a few months into our marriage we just about called it quits. Looking back now, I can see why we struggled to make our marriage work. We are both very strong willed and stubborn people which led to some ridiculous fights in…