• Family

    When Your Kid Leaves the Nest

    A few weeks ago, I dropped my oldest son off to College to play baseball and hopefully get an education as well😉.  It was something he had worked very hard for. He sacrificed a lot of his high school social time, and dealt with a lot of unforeseen circumstances to get himself there. As parents we walked through it all with him, we did whatever we could to facilitate him achieving his goal of obtaining a baseball scholarship to a school in the US. We worked hard with him and for him, we were so proud of him when he got the offer!  The week before I took him I…

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    How Working Moms Can Use Summer to Build Family Traditions

    I live for summer. I love the long days, the early sun, the warm weather, picnic dinners on the beach, BBQ’s with friends, swimming and the easy breezy vibe that seems to come with the season.  I am an early riser so I find waking up in the cold, dark and often rainy (I live on the west coast) morning tough. Really tough.  I push myself to get up, but it is a struggle. I wait for the days when I get to wake up and the sun is already out. I get up, open every single blind in the house (a habit I inherited from my dad) and take every…

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    Things I Learned From my Mother

    My beautiful mother This was the speech that I was supposed to read at my mother’s funeral but I couldn’t do it. I had so much regret after that I didn’t read it but I couldn’t pull myself together enough to do it… actually, I couldn’t even read it until today. This is my tribute to her. I hope you get a glimpse of what a wonderful human being she was.  Happy Mother’s Day sisters ? Things my mother taught me… I learned from my mother how to be a friend…Everyone that knew her or met her LOVED her. Like really loved her. She had many different friends from many…

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    Infertility Awareness Week and My Journey to Conceive

    Maternity Pics 5 days before the girls were born. Photo Credit: EA photography  April is infertility awareness month so I thought this would be a good time to share a bit about my journey to have my girls. Heads up, this might be TMI for some people- sorry!? My husband (Tim) and I started trying to get pregnant about two years after we got married. We put it off because we wanted it to be the ‘perfect’ time. By perfect, we wanted at least one of us finished school and at least one of us working a steady job. We planned that if we started at a certain time we…

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    Why we need to let our kids fail

    We can’t hear the news or browse the web without hearing about the US college admissions bribery scandal. People are outraged at the lengths that parents have gone to get their kids admitted into  prestigious colleges. Shocked at the audacity of their schemes. I too was outraged at the injustice of it all. But, the more I thought about it the more I realized that a lot of us as parents are doing similar things in different areas using a wide variety of resources to ensure “happiness”, “success” and “comfort” for our children.  I think we can use money, friendships, build friendships of convenience, coach our kid’s sports team, or…

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    What I have learned from a decade of parenting

    Family time This week my twin girls will be celebrating their 10th birthday. What??! How the heck did that happen? My friend once told me that it would drive him wild when his older sister would tell him ‘the days are long but the years are short’ when he was in the weeds parenting. I can understand how a saying like that might make you want to roll your eyes when you are in the thick of it with little kids, but once they get older (say around 10ish?) this expression really does ring true. Don’t get me wrong, some days are still numbingly, painfully long, but I truly can’t believe…

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    Parenting Books…Ugh…

    So many parenting books prescribe the “best” and sometimes “right” way to help your child sleep, eat, play, bond, socialize and behave. They often promise to solve an assortment of other issues you may be facing as a parent. How on earth does a parent choose the “right” book? Hmmm, is there a right book or method? And what did people do before there were parenting books? Right? I have spent countless hours and money on parenting books of all varieties. Books on attachment parenting, books on “crying it out,” books that suggest rigid schedules, books that suggest no schedules, positive discipline, 1-2-3 discipline, demand feeding, feeding at only specific…

  • Family,  Working Moms

    Ditch the Working Mom Guilt

    Jody and I working on blog planning and doing some pics at the local coffee shop while the littles ran around outside! It feels like I have always worked. I grew up in a home where my father insisted that I work, so at 14 years old I started my first job cleaning dental instruments after school for a local dentist where I made $2.00 an hour…. I kid you not… $2.00 an hour. Even with a full course load through university I worked. What I have come to understand about myself is that I like working. I like getting my paycheck, I like the feeling of accomplishment when I…

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    Transform Your Marriage With This…

    Ever look at a couple and ask yourself ‘how are they so happy?’ All couples have issues (trust me), but some couples seem to have figured out how to navigate these issues and bring out (and see) the best in each other. After many years of working with couples, I can tell you that it is not just one thing that makes couples happy. If only it were that easy. Last week, we talked about the importance of accepting influence from your partner (you can check it out here), in this post I want to talk about the importance of creating shared meaning as a couple. If you have read anything by…

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    Making Marriage Work: Why It’s Important to Accept Influence from Your Partner

    Me and my hubby on our wedding day In December (2018), my husband and I celebrated 15 years of marriage. We have made it through grad school, law school, infertility, premature twins, my sick and then dying mother, and many other struggles in between. Making a marriage work is… work. I would be lying if I told you it has all been bliss. It has not. In fact, a few months into our marriage we just about called it quits. Looking back now, I can see why we struggled to make our marriage work. We are both very strong willed and stubborn people which led to some ridiculous fights in…